Resources for Surrogates

Welcome to the world of surrogacy, a path illuminated by hope, compassion, and profound altruism. As a surrogate, you’re not only helping to bring a child into the world—you’re giving a future, a family, and a lifetime of happiness. This journey begins with one of the most meaningful steps: the first meeting with intended parents, where stories unfold, hearts connect, and dreams take shape.

The Essence of the First Meeting

This meeting, which usually lasts between 30 to 45 minutes, is the first chance for two worlds to come together. At Surrogacy GRACE, most intended parents are international, which means the first introduction usually happens through a Zoom video call. If intended parents live locally, the meeting may instead take place in person.

During this call, the intended parents will share their journey—their hopes, struggles, and dreams. Then, the focus shifts to you: your motivations, your experiences, and your reasons for becoming a surrogate. This conversation is not just procedural; it is the foundation of trust, understanding, and mutual respect.

Key Topics to Discuss

• Communication Dynamics: How will you stay in touch before, during, and after pregnancy? Setting expectations helps strengthen the relationship.
• Navigating Sensitive Topics: Issues such as abortion or reduction in case of medical complications must be discussed with openness and care.
• Two-Way Conversation: Intended parents may ask about your family’s support, your past pregnancies, and aspects of your lifestyle. This helps them understand who you are as both a surrogate and a person.

Questions Intended Parents May Ask

• Is your family supportive of your decision to become a surrogate?
• Would you be open to pumping breast milk for the baby?
• What do you enjoy doing during your free time?
• Why did you choose to embark on a surrogacy journey?

Questions Surrogates Should Ask

• What are your plans for visiting during the pregnancy and attending the birth?
• Is your family aware of your surrogacy journey, and what support will they provide after birth?
• What is your timeline and readiness to begin the surrogacy process?
• How do you envision your involvement throughout the pregnancy?

Tips for a Smooth Meeting:

• Prepare Your Space: Choose a quiet place with good internet. Headphones improve audio, and a stable camera avoids distractions.
• Video Etiquette: Place your phone or computer on a stable surface to prevent shaky video. Since the meeting is via video, dress casually but appropriately—avoid pajamas or overly relaxed attire.
• Lean on Support: You are not alone. The Surrogacy GRACE team will be present to help guide the conversation and ensure everything runs smoothly.

Building Trust and Comfort

Intended parents are often curious and eager to connect on a personal level. They may ask about your family, your willingness to pump breast milk, or how you balance your own life outside of surrogacy. These questions are about more than logistics—they help build a human connection and reassure both parties that they are entering this journey with trust and shared understanding.

The Power of Natural Conversation

The best relationships develop when conversations flow naturally. While Surrogacy GRACE will guide the call, it’s the genuine, unscripted exchanges that often matter most. Every journey is unique, and the strength of this relationship can take different forms—some surrogates and intended parents form close friendships, while others prefer a more structured relationship. Both approaches are valid and can be deeply fulfilling.