Resources For Surrogates

Choosing to become a surrogate is a meaningful and rewarding commitment, but it also comes alongside everyday responsibilities. Many surrogates continue working throughout a large part of their journey, balancing appointments, medications, family life, and professional obligations at the same time.

While this may sound overwhelming at first, many women successfully manage both work and surrogacy with the right preparation, communication, and support system.

At GRACE, we understand that surrogates are not putting their lives on hold. You are continuing to manage careers, families, and personal responsibilities while helping another family grow. With thoughtful planning, the journey can feel manageable, balanced, and empowering.

Can You Work While Being a Surrogate?

Yes. Many surrogates maintain full-time or part-time employment throughout much of the pregnancy. In most cases, surrogates are able to continue their normal work routines, especially during the early stages of the journey. However, flexibility may become necessary for:

• Medical screenings and IVF appointments
• Embryo transfer preparation
• Prenatal appointments
• Recovery periods after procedures or delivery

The exact experience depends on your health, your job responsibilities, and your pregnancy.

Planning Your Schedule Early

One of the best ways to reduce stress is to prepare your schedule before the process becomes busy. Many surrogates find it helpful to:

• Use a shared calendar for appointments
• Schedule medical visits early in the day when possible
• Coordinate childcare or transportation in advance
• Build extra flexibility into their weekly routine

The IVF process especially can involve multiple appointments within a short period of time. Planning ahead helps prevent work-related stress from building unnecessarily.

Talking to HR or Your Employer

Deciding how much to share at work is deeply personal. Some surrogates are very open about their journey, while others prefer to keep details private. If you choose to speak with HR or your manager, focus on practical communication rather than feeling pressured to explain every detail.

Conversations often include topics such as scheduling time for medical appointments, planning for potential leave during delivery and recovery, discussing temporary flexibility if needed, and understanding company policies related to pregnancy leave. Approaching the conversation calmly and professionally often helps employers respond more positively and supportively.

Understanding Your Rights

Many surrogates have questions about workplace protections during pregnancy. While policies vary depending on your location and employer, pregnancy-related protections often still apply during a surrogate pregnancy.

This may include:

• Reasonable accommodations at work
• Protected medical leave in some situations
• Protection from pregnancy discrimination

If you are unsure about your rights, speaking with HR or a qualified professional can help provide clarity and peace of mind.