Resources for Parents

Imagine this: you’re moments away from meeting the surrogate who may carry your future child. It’s a meeting full of hope, joy, and perhaps a touch of nervous anticipation. At Grace Surrogacy, we know this is not just an introduction — it’s the start of a life-changing bond between intended parents and a surrogate mother, united by the dream of creating a family.

Many intended parents ask: “When will I be matched with a surrogate?” The process begins once your embryos have been created, ensuring we can find the right match for you based on compatibility, values, and expectations. This first meeting is where that match takes shape, setting the tone for a collaborative and rewarding journey.

What to Expect in Your First Meeting

This meeting typically lasts 30 to 45 minutes and may take place over Zoom if you live abroad, or in person if you’re local. A member of the Grace team will always be present to guide the conversation, so you never feel alone or unsure.

Typical Questions Surrogates May Ask

Your surrogate may want to learn more about your plans and readiness for this journey. Common questions include:

• Will you visit during the pregnancy or attend the birth?
  
  
• Does your family know and support your surrogacy journey?
  
  
• What support system do you have once the baby is born?
  
  
• How soon are you ready to start?
  
  
• How involved would you like to be throughout the pregnancy?

Questions You May Consider Asking

This is also your opportunity to learn about her motivations, lifestyle, and expectations. For example:

• What inspired you to become a surrogate?
  
  
• Does your family support your decision?
  
  
• Would you be open to pumping breast milk?
  
  
• What hobbies or activities do you enjoy in your free time?

Handling Sensitive Topics with Care

Conversations about abortion or selective reduction in the case of medical complications may arise. These are delicate but necessary discussions. Approach them with respect and empathy, knowing they involve both medical and emotional considerations.

Dos and Don’ts for a Successful First Meeting

Dos

• Be open and curious, learning about your surrogate’s life beyond this journey.
• Share your story and listen to hers, building mutual respect.
• Talk about communication expectations, while staying flexible.
  
  

Don’ts

• Don’t treat the meeting as an interrogation or negotiation.
• Don’t discuss financials; those are handled legally and separately.
• Don’t stress. This is a chance to connect authentically, not a formal interview.