Resources for Parents

Imagine this: You’re moments away from meeting the surrogate who will carry your future child. It’s an experience filled with deep emotions – a mix of hope, joy, and a bit of natural anxiety. For you, as intended parents, this isn’t just a routine meeting. It’s the start of a beautiful and unique journey. We at Surrogacy Grace fully appreciate the significance of this encounter. This isn’t just an introduction; it’s the forging of a special bond, a shared commitment to a dream that’s about to become a tangible, heartwarming reality.

And you might be wondering, “When will I be matched with a surrogate?” – The matching process begins once your embryos have been created. This ensures that we find the perfect match for you, considering all the important factors that make this journey successful and fulfilling for everyone involved.

But don’t worry, we’re here to guide you through everything you need to know about this pivotal first meeting. It’s not just a formality; it’s the beginning of a beautiful and collaborative relationship that will bring your dreams closer to reality.

The Essence of the First Meeting

This meeting, which usually takes about 30 to 45 minutes, is a moment where two paths meet for a singular dream. At Surrogacy GRACE, many of our intended parents are from different countries, so the first encounter with the surrogate is often via a video conference on Zoom.

However, if the intended parents are local, a face-to-face meeting is a lovely option.

Key Topics and Questions for Your First Meeting

As you prepare for this significant meeting, it’s important to have a clear understanding of the topics that will be discussed and the questions that might arise. This conversation sets the tone for your relationship moving forward.

Typical Questions From Surrogates Might Include:

Your plans for visiting during the pregnancy and attending the birth.

• Whether your family is aware of and supportive of your surrogacy journey.
• The support system you’ll have once the baby is born.
• Your timeline and readiness to start the surrogacy process.
• How you envision your involvement throughout the surrogacy journey.

The meeting is an opportunity for both parties to ask questions, here’s a few questions to consider asking:

• Is your family supportive of your decision to be a surrogate?
• Would you be willing to pump breast milk?
• What are your hobbies or favorite activities during your time off?
• Understand her motivations: What inspired you to become a surrogate?

Sensitive Topics with Care:

It’s important to approach sensitive subjects such as abortion or reduction in the case of medical issues with respect and understanding. These are not just clinical decisions but emotional ones that require empathy and mutual agreement.

Dos and Don’ts for a Successful Meeting:

• DO be curious and open. Learn about your surrogate’s life beyond her role in your journey.
• DON’T turn the meeting into an interrogation or a list of demands. Remember, surrogates are guided by medical professionals.
• DO discuss your hopes and expectations for communication, but keep it flexible and open-ended.
• DON’T delve into financial discussions; these are handled separately through legal channels.
• DO share your story and listen to hers. This journey is about mutual understanding and respect.
• DON’T stress over the conversation. This is a chance to connect, not a formal interview.
• DO be yourself. Authenticity is key to building a genuine and lasting relationship.