Resources for Surrogates

Resources for Surrogates

Deciding to become a surrogate is a deeply personal and significant decision. It’s a journey filled with emotions, excitement, and a sense of purpose. But one of the practical considerations you may face is how to share this news at work. At Grace LLC, we understand the nuances of this conversation and have prepared a comprehensive guide to help you navigate this important step.

Understanding Your Rights and Responsibilities

Before you approach your boss or coworkers, it’s essential to understand your rights and responsibilities as a surrogate. Familiarize yourself with your company’s policies regarding medical leave, pregnancy, and family-related matters. Consult with your HR department if needed. Knowing your rights will empower you to have an informed and confident conversation.

A surrogate mother discussing her rights and responsibilities with an HR representative at Grace LLC

Talking to Your Boss: A Step-by-Step Approach

1. Choose the Right Time and Place
Schedule a private meeting to ensure confidentiality.
Choose a time when your boss is not rushed or stressed.
Consider your boss’s personality and how they might react.

2. Prepare What You’ll Say 

Outline the key points you want to cover.
Be ready to explain how your surrogacy journey may impact your work schedule.
Practice with a friend or family member if you feel nervous.

3. Be Open and Honest
Share your reasons for becoming a surrogate if you feel comfortable.
Express your commitment to your job and your plan to manage your responsibilities.
Acknowledge any concerns your boss may have and address them proactively.

4. Discuss Practicalities
Talk about potential time off for medical appointments or recovery.
Offer solutions or suggestions to minimize any impact on your team.
Be open to collaboration and flexibility.

5. Follow Up in Writing
Summarize your conversation in an email to ensure clarity and a record of the discussion.
Offer to provide any additional information or documentation if needed.

A group of surrogates sharing their experiences and supporting each other at Grace LLC

Sharing with Coworkers: Balancing Privacy and Openness

1. Decide Who to Tell
You may choose to tell close coworkers or keep it private.
Consider how your surrogacy may affect your team and who needs to know.
Think about the dynamics of your workplace and how news might spread.

2. Choose Your Words Carefully
Be prepared to answer questions or simply state that you prefer to keep details private.
Share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with.
Consider preparing a brief explanation to keep the conversation focused.

3. Respect Different Reactions
People may react differently, and that’s okay.
Focus on those who support you and don’t feel pressured to justify your decision.
Seek support from friends or support groups if you encounter negative reactions.

4. Maintain Professionalism
Keep your conversations respectful and professional.
Remember that you have control over how much you share and with whom.

Additional Considerations

Legal and Medical Documentation

You may choose to tell close coworkers or keep it private.
Consider how your surrogacy may affect your team and who needs to know.
Think about the dynamics of your workplace and how news might spread.

Ongoing Communication

Keep your boss and relevant team members informed of any significant developments or changes in your schedule.

Maintain open and honest communication throughout your surrogacy journey.

Conclusion: Your Journey, Your Choice


Breaking the surrogacy news at work is a personal and sometimes delicate process. By planning ahead, choosing the right words, and approaching the conversation with confidence and sensitivity, you can navigate this step with grace.

Remember, you have the right to privacy and the power to choose how to share this news. At Grace LLC, we support you in every aspect of your surrogacy journey, including these important conversations.

If you have any questions or need further guidance, we’re here for you. Your journey as a surrogate is a beautiful and generous act, and we’re committed to supporting you every step of the way.

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