Resources for Surrogates

Resources for Surrogates

As a parent, you’re no stranger to navigating complex conversations with your children. However, explaining your decision to become a surrogate can present a unique set of challenges. At Grace LLC, we understand these challenges and are here to provide effective strategies to guide your child through your journey as a surrogate.

Understanding the Concept

The first step is to ensure your child understands what surrogacy is. Depending on their age, you may need to simplify the concept. For younger children, you could explain that you’re helping another family who can’t have a baby on their own. You might say, “Just like how a teacher helps us learn, I’m helping a family have a baby because they can’t do it by themselves.”

For older children, you can delve into more detail about the process. Explain the medical and legal aspects in a way they can understand. You might say, “Doctors will take a tiny seed from the baby’s mommy, put it in my tummy, and I’ll carry the baby until it’s ready to be born. But remember, the baby will go home with its parents after it’s born.”

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Building Connections with the Intended Parents

One key component of the surrogacy journey at Grace LLC is fostering a connection between the gestational carrier, her family, and the intended parents. It’s essential for the child of the gestational carrier to understand who the baby’s real parents are. This personal connection can provide clarity, emphasizing the notion that “it’s X and Y’s baby, not my sibling.”

A heartwarming incident we witnessed was during a heartbeat confirmation appointment with a gestational carrier named Michelle. Her 3-year-old daughter, Emily, was initially distressed upon hearing the baby’s heartbeat, fearing another sibling in her family. However, through a video call, we introduced Emily to the intended parents, Francis and Laurent. Once she saw and spoke to them, understanding that the baby was theirs, her worries dissipated. Such moments underline the importance of establishing and nurturing this bond.

Moreover, at Grace LLC, we emphasize the significance of post-birth interactions. We ensure that the gestational carrier’s children have the opportunity to see the baby after birth, interact with it, and observe the intended parents’ joy. These experiences allow them to witness the full journey, from pregnancy to the joyous moment when the intended parents hold their baby. It also offers the gestational carrier’s children a sense of closure, comprehending the full narrative of their mother’s altruistic act.

Open and Honest Communication

Honesty is key when discussing surrogacy with your child. It’s important to reassure them that although you’re carrying a baby, you’re not bringing a new sibling into your family. This can help alleviate any potential confusion or anxiety they may have.

You might explain, “This baby will have its own mommy and daddy waiting for it. I’m just like a kind friend helping them out. After the baby is born, it will go to its own home.” This clear distinction can help your child understand that your family dynamics will remain the same.

Involvement in the Process

Involving your child in the surrogacy journey can help them feel more comfortable with the process. This could be as simple as letting them accompany you to doctor’s appointments or allowing them to feel the baby kick.

The aforementioned connection between families can also serve as an essential part of the involvement. Witnessing interactions between their parents (the gestational carrier) and the intended parents, or even directly communicating with the intended parents, can offer your child a clearer perspective on the surrogacy journey.

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Reassurance of Your Unchanging Love

Children may fear that your love for them will diminish as you carry another baby. It’s crucial to reassure them that your love for them is unwavering and that becoming a surrogate doesn’t change your role as their parent.

You might say, “Just like how my love for you didn’t change when your sibling was born, my love for you won’t change because of this baby. I’m still your mom, and that will never change.” Regularly expressing your love and commitment can help your child feel secure during this time.

Professional Guidance

If your child is struggling to understand or accept your surrogacy journey, consider seeking professional help. Child psychologists and counselors can provide valuable tools and strategies to help your child cope with this unique situation.

They can offer age-appropriate explanations and activities to help your child process their feelings. They can also provide a safe space for your child to express any fears or concerns they may have.


Embarking on a surrogacy journey is a profound decision that impacts not only you but also your family. By maintaining open communication, involving your child in the process, and reassuring them of your unchanging love, you can help guide them through this journey.

Remember, it’s okay to seek professional help if needed. At Grace LLC, we’re here to support you every step of the way. We believe in the power of surrogacy to change lives, and we’re committed to helping our surrogates and their families navigate this journey with grace and understanding.

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GRACE has created a new model for surrogacy with an emphasis on quality rather than quantity, and a strategic development of services to meet the unique needs of the future parents and the surrogates.